How Experience Shapes Reality

Is What You See, Hear, Believe and Perceive Always The Truth? 
We all live our lives believing that how we perceive the world is how the world is, but what if we are wrong?  What if each experience, each trauma and each success actually shapes how we perceive reality?  What if our life actually adds filters (or lenses) to our perceptions so that we begin to see our truth more and the truth less?

Important Note: Your experience is valid, and each person processes situations differently. There is no right or wrong way to process BUT there are lenses we put on and recognizing those can help improve our own healing as people who have life.

What are some things that have created my personal filters?

1. Abandonment
2. Early Childhood Abuse
3. Physical and mental abuse
4. Sexual Assault
5. Out of home Placement Confirming Abandonment Beliefs
6. Lack of Stability
7. Lack of Respect for my Body
8. Suicidal Ideation and Action
9. Homelessness
10. Near Death Experiences

What Are Some Things that have Removed these Filters?

1. Therapy with a therapist I personally chose
2. Building my community of high vibration individuals
3. Deciding for myself who I consider family and cutting any and all negativity out of my circle
4. Learning to say "no" and enforce it
5. Becoming an Independent Damsel Pro and learning the POWER of sharing Knowledge (this is not a recruitment scam: I am no longer a Damsel Pro)
6. Loving myself enough to see myself as worthy, these are the main ways I did this:
1. Became pregnant and meditated and prayed my way through and AMAZING pregnancy
2. Became a wife: Chose my Husband and his 2 children as my own
3. Wrote and Launched the "Adopted Bad Ass Course"
7. Became my own best friend
8. Last but not least:I forgave myself for everything.

How did I go from a 20 year old who blamed the entire world for everything that had happened to her while refusing to see that it had happened for me, to a kick ass 23 year old mama of 1 and bonus mama of 2, launching a course about healing on a scale that's never been seen before? 

I worked on myself, I invested in myself, I took stock of all that I have been given, the roles that others have played in my life, the role I had played in the life of others and I stopped playing the victim.

Was I abused?  Absolutely.  Can I spot an abused person or an abusive person from miles away? Most definitely! 

Was I suicidal?  Yes.  

Can I spot someone struggling with life through a text message? YES!

Was I homeless? Yes.  

Do I have compassion for those who have less than me, give freely and love deeply those who struggle? You bet! 

Do I believe that All of this brought me to where I am today, writing a blog, launching a system of success, calling out my own Bull Shit and challenging you to do the same? Yes, I do. 

 I now Challenge you to do something that I did, an exercise in dedication, commitment to healing and changing YOUR mind about YOU.

Take a moment to list out all of the ways in which you have chosen to limit your own healing, and then make a decision to change it.  Address that 1 thing that terrifies you, write a letter to the person who hurt you the most (even if that person is you) and yep, I am going to say it: FORGIVE THEM! Forgive them because it will stop the hatred you hold for them from eating you alive, when you forgive you really just free yourself from being defined by that person’s actions and cut off your own limitations.  You claim the power back and stop being a victim and start surviving.  Forgiving IS NOT condoning, forgiving is CHOOSING to be free. And don't We ALL want freedom!