Freedom from Lingering Resentment due to Sexual Trauma

It was never your fault, not the clothes, the location or the time was your fault!  You are a human being and you deserve the basic human rights that come with that, including the ability to say NO and be respected.

Maybe you were walking on the street, and maybe it was dark.  Maybe you went to a party and maybe there was alcohol there. Maybe you were at home with a window open, and a stranger broke in.  Maybe you went out with the popular boy with “bitter” ex’s.  Maybe you saw signs, maybe you didn’t, maybe you were drunk and maybe you weren’t but none of that matters; rapists rape and assault (period).

We want to believe that we (women or men) would “fight back” or scream or any means of fight, but this isn’t always the case AND that is okay!  How we deal with trauma falls into 3 categories: Fight, Flight or Freeze.  We all respond to adrenaline by either fighting (going on offence or defending), running away from the situation ( not trusting anyone and reducing the pain experienced during an attack) or freezing (inability to do either of the first 2 options often known as disassociation is going int survival mode).  All of these are normal and in no way imply consent.

Decide what type of fear reaction do you have?

1. Fight
2. Flight
3. Freeze

What types of “treatments” have you partaken in? And did it work for you?

1. Therapy
2. Psychology
3. Psychotherapy 
4. Medication

What action did you take after the assault (within 1 week)? Does it feel right?

1. Went to the police and filed a report
2. Called 911 right away
3. Cleaned up then contacted the police
4. Told a trusted friend
5. Told a family member
6. Buried it all inside and pushed down the emotions
7. Wont talk about it and avoid thinking about it (or anything that reminds me of it)

New technique:

•  Take two 3X5 cards one in an ugly color and 1 in a fun color.
•  Take 2 clear glasses and tape 1 card to each glass.
•  Write all the emotions you feel about the assault on the ugly color card and tape it to the first cup
•  Write all the emotions you want to feel about sex and love in general on the other cool color card, tape it on the other cup
•  Fill the ugly label cup with water, read the label and renounce each feeling like so:
• "I renounce the angry feelings that I hold towards sex as a result of the assault on my body, and I know that I alone hold the power to my own body."
• And continue with each emotion and renouncing each feeling.
•  Now pour the water from the renounced feelings cup into the desired feelings cup and CLAIM these feelings as yours!
•  DRINK THE WATER! 
•  Change your reality!

Good Luck!